tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post8730472812615773353..comments2023-07-04T12:07:08.503-04:00Comments on The Modesty Writers Guild: true friends stab you in the front -oscar wildeUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger57125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-11143406467110352732009-09-30T02:08:41.052-04:002009-09-30T02:08:41.052-04:00I am a fan of anberlin and always have felt an und...I am a fan of anberlin and always have felt an understanding of their songs when I fell upon this blog. This post helped me alot last year when I went through friends doing something to me. I found who were my true friends and it is true friend do stab you in the front and a few weeks ago I went through a humiliating experience with one who was a little more than a friend. Sometime you find that S.C.V.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01379805598148348482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-56330363840067245742008-11-04T13:06:00.000-05:002008-11-04T13:06:00.000-05:00I forget who said this, (I remember quotes but the...I forget who said this, (I remember quotes but the name of the quoted always eludes me) "Conflict, properly handled, deepens friendship." Paradoxical, but true. Thank you for being honest. Honesty (and fantastic artistry)were what drew me to your music. Keep writing.Luciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03009773038719694433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-27470721465968741602008-10-29T23:40:00.000-04:002008-10-29T23:40:00.000-04:00Once again... thanks for this post, though I'm rea...Once again... thanks for this post, though I'm reading it over a year later, lol <BR/><BR/>Really made me think of what a friendship should really look like. We have to be there for a person... not just to encourage them or flatter them but to help them. They need our honesty...Story of a Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15371714380978968566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-7119036777881093832007-06-26T15:44:00.000-04:002007-06-26T15:44:00.000-04:00I have been struggling with your post ever since i...I have been struggling with your post ever since it was first posted because in stabbing a friend in the front it creates conflict and I HATE CONFLICT! I have been burdened to speak to a friend for quite awhile now and at times I have cried myself to sleep because I just don't want to do it! <BR/>I have been asking God to help me accept the choices they are making but it kills me! Cuz I want Adriennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18123656849929130344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-5243807787912978922007-06-25T05:19:00.000-04:002007-06-25T05:19:00.000-04:00http://www.micahchallenge.org.au/pages/content.asp...http://www.micahchallenge.org.au/pages/content.asp?plid=8<BR/><BR/>worth checking out, spreading the word and supporting. The man who started micahchallenge survived the rwanda genocide, lost his parents, siblings and grandparents. His immediate family survived and started to take in kids who were left wandering the congo. A foster care system was started for remaining kids who were left with no Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-47300456793018505662007-06-18T18:24:00.000-04:002007-06-18T18:24:00.000-04:00I've always believed that truth and honesty went t...I've always believed that truth and honesty went to those who deserved it.<BR/><BR/>I had a best friend who was getting himself involved with a completely unhealthy relationship with a girl we both knew. So I put myself out there for him and warned him about her, even though I knew I was risking a perfectly good friendship with a perfectly nice girl who was just lacking in the commitment Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-7704323540928219012007-06-15T07:40:00.000-04:002007-06-15T07:40:00.000-04:00I think there's a lot of truth in that statement. ...I think there's a lot of truth in that statement. My best friend, who I consider an extension of myself even when she's on the other side of the world, is my best friend because she pulled me aside one day and cut me down. It was what I needed to hear and we moved forward. She is the person I trust most in the world.<BR/>When my best friend was making bad decisions, I however chose not to speak Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-41154717509599112722007-06-10T09:21:00.000-04:002007-06-10T09:21:00.000-04:00Friendship is tough love. There are friends or aqu...Friendship is tough love. There are friends or aquaitences; and there are close friends. Close friends should be guarded with your heart, a friend you would do anything for. Everybody loves to have friends, and we crave to be liked by others. But the truth of the matter is that as much as we would like to, we cant be everybody's best friend. I have recently learnt that developing true friendshipsEve-Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03293113594493820700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-39788774570113221292007-06-10T02:59:00.000-04:002007-06-10T02:59:00.000-04:00i party agree with mr. camus. some people truly do...i party agree with mr. camus. <BR/>some people truly do want you to be honest with them, <BR/>but other people dont.<BR/>i think it depends on who yer talking to, <BR/>and how truly honest yer willing to be with that person.<BR/><BR/>when do you honestly care more about anyone,<BR/>than you care about yerself?<BR/><BR/>that is the question.<BR/>and if you have an answer,<BR/>let me know.heatherxrayex3https://www.blogger.com/profile/10750337705801966148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-88418683018597726702007-06-07T22:54:00.000-04:002007-06-07T22:54:00.000-04:00you inspire me, but not for superficial reasons. i...you inspire me, but not for superficial reasons. im not inspired because of the way you do yer hair, or the way you dress, i'm inspired by the way you write, and express how you feel to the world. i may be only fourteen, but the things you write have really made me think about my life, who i am, who i want to be, and my future. i don't know you personally, but yer honesty and thoughts have made aheatherxrayex3https://www.blogger.com/profile/10750337705801966148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-63058279579535407052007-06-06T13:32:00.000-04:002007-06-06T13:32:00.000-04:00you know the biblical idea to confess your sins to...you know the biblical idea to confess your sins to one another, im assuming most practically for accountability? i think, much like the oft-neglected flip side to "love others as yourself" idea requires that you love yourself as well, i think there is similarly an unspoken premise that our relationships must be strong and free enough to present these cases. and much like the friend you said tehillimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09505191884849608382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-2306373966622556042007-06-06T12:15:00.000-04:002007-06-06T12:15:00.000-04:00I just found your blog a few days back. I really e...I just found your blog a few days back. I really enjoy reading it loads, especially the entry dated March8 2007!<BR/><BR/>Keep on blogging! It's a joy reading your blog, cause you seem so modest.<BR/><BR/><BR/>BTW, THE ANBERLIN/COPELAND CONCERT IN SINGAPORE WAS THE BOMB!<BR/>please do come back to perform again :)Vseowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09966455682967584514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-8341254579694580332007-06-05T10:05:00.000-04:002007-06-05T10:05:00.000-04:00Here's the quote I mentioned earlier. The whole c...Here's the quote I mentioned earlier. The whole context takes place on pgs 200-1. "'..It's like you can come to Patrick's rescue and hurt two guys that are trying to hurt him, but what about when Patrick's hurting himself? Like when you guys went to that park? or when he was kissing you? Did you want him to kiss you?'<BR/>I shook my head no. 'So why did you let him?'<BR/>'I was just trying to Emily Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10752534507545133104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-86602425694427625502007-06-04T14:12:00.000-04:002007-06-04T14:12:00.000-04:00This post made me think of a quote from Donald Mil...This post made me think of a quote from Donald Miller, and I apologize for quoting the ever-so-trendy Mr. Miller, but I think it was in his book "Through Painted Deserts" (I could be wrong) that he spoke about taking on a, "You are more important than me" mindset. I think it's an amazing motto to live by.<BR/><BR/>If you truely care about this person, then you should be able to look at them and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-56748297535017555622007-06-04T00:04:00.000-04:002007-06-04T00:04:00.000-04:00Honesty...is an interesting concept. Many times i'...Honesty...is an interesting concept. Many times i've saved friends from pain by using honesty...one time I was honest with a best friend about her character and it shattered our relationship and we barely talk now...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-78742268158207769442007-06-02T23:50:00.000-04:002007-06-02T23:50:00.000-04:00i think you need to make sure that what you want t...i think you need to make sure that what you want to confront them with is truly for their benefit. sometimes we can really really want something so bad from someone, but it isn't necessarily the best thing for their life at that particular time.<BR/>obviously i dont know the situation, and you may very well be wanting the best for them, and want them to mature and excell in their walk of life...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-21017026320353860132007-06-02T03:21:00.000-04:002007-06-02T03:21:00.000-04:00I have learned that if we know something that can ...I have learned that if we know something that can be productive for another person to know then we should share it. however we should also be prepared for the reaction of that person to not be what we may expect.<BR/>We all have choices to make in this life and even with the best advice we can still go through life blind.<BR/>Tell your friends and if they are truly your friends it wont matter, Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-75700190024203607642007-06-01T04:11:00.000-04:002007-06-01T04:11:00.000-04:00The world is a totally different place when you do...The world is a totally different place when you don't know how to talk to it. <BR/><BR/>When you can't make your words understood, you really have to go beyond the most basic forms of communication.<BR/><BR/>Best of luck in Singapore and beyond. <BR/>Really great meeting you guys last night.Dagberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10679659933687912718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-2970879142966389622007-06-01T03:16:00.000-04:002007-06-01T03:16:00.000-04:00JUST ON A RANDOM NOTE, YOU MAY HAVE HEARD THIS BAN...JUST ON A RANDOM NOTE, YOU MAY HAVE HEARD THIS BAND BUT IF NOT ITS WORTH CHECKING OUT. THEY ARE ICELANTIC SO YOU MAY NOT UNDERSTAND THE LYRICS BUT THE MUSIC TRANSENDS PAST THAT. THE BAND IS CALLED 'SIGUR ROS' AND THERE VIDS ARE ON YOUTUBE. THE BEST SONG IN MY OPINION IS 'GLOSOLI'....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-85221984942951577222007-05-31T22:15:00.000-04:002007-05-31T22:15:00.000-04:00i thought about it this some more while i was at w...i thought about it this some more while i was at work. what about those times when a friend is hell bent on destroying his life, and refusing to listen to anything you say to him. the pain you feel can drive you crazy; it's almost as if they begin to destroy your life as well, b/c your gentle and loving confrontation is being ignored. i don't know about this either. friendship is one of the Lizzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07150540236429720163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-88899599619195284502007-05-31T17:50:00.000-04:002007-05-31T17:50:00.000-04:00Oh Yeah, for all the cultural and social history a...Oh Yeah, for all the cultural and social history and reverence, Japanese society is one of the most predjudiced and closed in the world.<BR/><BR/>It doesn't mean they can't and aren't changing.<BR/><BR/>So beware what you revere in other people and other societies. we are all so human and flawed...<BR/><BR/>JamesAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-70460331077645542252007-05-31T15:22:00.000-04:002007-05-31T15:22:00.000-04:00it's tricky for sure. looking back on the past yea...it's tricky for sure. looking back on the past year, i've seen that my close friends could have saved me from a lot of pain if they had simply told me what an idiot i was being. on the other hand, at a time in my life when almost everyone else was telling me that i was acting stupid [they were right, but it was a blow to my self-esteem], i appreciated the faith my friends seemed to have in my Lizzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07150540236429720163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-14682863031898973242007-05-31T12:59:00.000-04:002007-05-31T12:59:00.000-04:00Well you have either two options. You can tell the...Well you have either two options. You can tell the friend and hope that he/she will either respect your friendship more and you more for telling them the truth (whether or not they listen to your advice) or you don't tell them the truth and allow guilt to lay heavy upon you every time you hang out with this person. I would go with the first option. No matter how dyre the opion is that you give, Meg-a-ronihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06642171474868117147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-11815393688445274932007-05-30T20:51:00.000-04:002007-05-30T20:51:00.000-04:00as cheesy as this may sound, honestly go with your...as cheesy as this may sound, honestly go with your heart and what feels right because in the end in will turn out the way it should be. <BR/><BR/>i have been (as most of us) been in a similar situation. i had a best friend for years who started making decisions that were terrible for her..absolutely terrible. for about a year our friendship was rough until it ultimately ended and she continues toBrightesthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05620391997033948366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5700584.post-48225924855755684272007-05-30T19:38:00.000-04:002007-05-30T19:38:00.000-04:00Honesty and any relationship is a struggle, but it...Honesty and any relationship is a struggle, but it's a struggle you must accept if your going to be a true friend. I know I hate hearing things from friends when I feel i'm being judged. Try and be as loving and gentle as you can in your approach. This last weekend I was talking with a family member who was complaining about how a friend of hers was a bit of a Liar. She would leave out details ofJuliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08230009856950174570noreply@blogger.com