lessons from someone i may never see again, sitting on a bus i will never ride recurrently.
as i moved to the back of the bus i began to complain to someone accompanying me as to how early are flight got in, and why our manager booked a flight were we had to be up so early to fly to LA. as the hotel shuttle began to move i realized that the only seats still available were directly in the rear of the bus but was already being occupied by someone who owned a wheelchair.
"there's plenty of room back here mate," i heard in an obvious australian accent.
as i sat down beside him i realized that there was something different about this 24 year old man. you see, he didn't have any arms or legs, and he later explained that he was born like that. but that is not what made him different, what set him apart from all the other weary travelers is that he had a smile on his face and how he seemed rather exuberant for this hour of the morning.
he opened up the conversation and it seemed that even though we had never met we picked up right where we left off.
he was a motivational speaker from australia flying into LA to do a seminar, as we entered into our conversation his words seemed only to uplift as you would expect for someone in his profession, and i was in awe to the fact that i didn't get the feeling that deep inside he hurt. it was a genuine and heartfelt lust for life he emanated. he was genuinely content with who he was, and the cards he had been dealt.
he had accomplished so much even though he had been born 'different'; 2 college degrees, spoken with several CEO's, even presidents of nations, and had spoke in every inhabited continent. his life was amazing, and the obstacles he overcame seem nearly impossible even to someone who is operating all their faculty's like myself.
he left me with a sense of purpose, not what the definition of what purpose is, but the fact that anyone regardless of sexual orientation, religion, color, or physical deformities can desire, seek, and fulfill their purpose.
don't look at what you don't have, look at what you have (no matter how little or obsolete you think what you possess is) and begin to utilize it for the betterment. for instance being sexually abused as a child is a horrid think to have to go through as a child, i wish that no one would ever have to go through such a traumatic experience. but instead of constantly asking 'why me?' for years and years ask 'who?, who can i help deliver from this abuse?" or "who can i help recover from their past." i understand that it is not easy to get over something traumatic in your life, but helping someone else may help you in your own recovery. by realizing you are not alone can give you a support system in recovery.
don't look at what you don't have, or what may have been lost in the past, but look at what you still have, and the talents and ability's you can share with others.
right before my new friend got off the bus he said " i don't shake hands for obvious reasons, i just hug," so as i embraced my new friend i realized that even though we had known each other for a few short moments he was a massive hero in my life, a person i will not forget any time soon.
as far as complaining about the little things in life, including flights, schedules, or lack of food selection, i have took a vow of silence. i'm sure its one i'm not going to live up to all the time. but i have a new sense of lasting inspiration now... a man i may never see again, on a bus i will never ride again. its not our lack we must concentrate upon but a future based firmly upon the little talents and ability's we do have.
"there's plenty of room back here mate," i heard in an obvious australian accent.
as i sat down beside him i realized that there was something different about this 24 year old man. you see, he didn't have any arms or legs, and he later explained that he was born like that. but that is not what made him different, what set him apart from all the other weary travelers is that he had a smile on his face and how he seemed rather exuberant for this hour of the morning.
he opened up the conversation and it seemed that even though we had never met we picked up right where we left off.
he was a motivational speaker from australia flying into LA to do a seminar, as we entered into our conversation his words seemed only to uplift as you would expect for someone in his profession, and i was in awe to the fact that i didn't get the feeling that deep inside he hurt. it was a genuine and heartfelt lust for life he emanated. he was genuinely content with who he was, and the cards he had been dealt.
he had accomplished so much even though he had been born 'different'; 2 college degrees, spoken with several CEO's, even presidents of nations, and had spoke in every inhabited continent. his life was amazing, and the obstacles he overcame seem nearly impossible even to someone who is operating all their faculty's like myself.
he left me with a sense of purpose, not what the definition of what purpose is, but the fact that anyone regardless of sexual orientation, religion, color, or physical deformities can desire, seek, and fulfill their purpose.
don't look at what you don't have, look at what you have (no matter how little or obsolete you think what you possess is) and begin to utilize it for the betterment. for instance being sexually abused as a child is a horrid think to have to go through as a child, i wish that no one would ever have to go through such a traumatic experience. but instead of constantly asking 'why me?' for years and years ask 'who?, who can i help deliver from this abuse?" or "who can i help recover from their past." i understand that it is not easy to get over something traumatic in your life, but helping someone else may help you in your own recovery. by realizing you are not alone can give you a support system in recovery.
don't look at what you don't have, or what may have been lost in the past, but look at what you still have, and the talents and ability's you can share with others.
right before my new friend got off the bus he said " i don't shake hands for obvious reasons, i just hug," so as i embraced my new friend i realized that even though we had known each other for a few short moments he was a massive hero in my life, a person i will not forget any time soon.
as far as complaining about the little things in life, including flights, schedules, or lack of food selection, i have took a vow of silence. i'm sure its one i'm not going to live up to all the time. but i have a new sense of lasting inspiration now... a man i may never see again, on a bus i will never ride again. its not our lack we must concentrate upon but a future based firmly upon the little talents and ability's we do have.
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okay usually i hate those lessons cause they're not fun to learn, but sometimes they're not so bad..glad you got a "not so bad" one
did that make any sense?
it's odd how much these people impact you without their knowing it...
On of the books "The Myth of Sanity Divided Consciousness and the Promise of Awareness" starts out by talking about the work of the doctor with patients who have been through intense trauma. She talks about how if anything once they get through it, because they've had to chose, had to fight to live, they often go on to live far more profoundly meaningful lives. A sense of, if one's past has been profoundly painful, then one must go on to live a beautiful life, if only to prove that life was worth living.
It's a beautiful thought. I'm always made incredibly glad when I can inspire someone to live life meaningfully, without them having had to live my life.
~katrina marie
i can't wait to see you guys in Perth! (please come, please come.)
love michelle
WMUM
It's not about us is it?
I continue to rediscover the art of giving myself to others.
There is healing in helping others.
www.lifewithoutlimbs.org
It strikes me reading the entry that, while you're right, a certain part of fulfilling God's purpose for our lives is undergoing change. If I can somehow frame what I'm attempting to say with any degree of relevance or lucidity--I think I'm thinking of the difference between seeking a way to fulfill our purpose with what we are, and looking at ourselves and being complacent about what we still need to change.
Admittedly, I'm talking more about character than uncontrollable exterior circumstances, it's not our lack we must concentrate on, but I think an awareness that we are not yet that which we wish to become is good.
I won't blame the state of where I am on my mom, because God's growing me into a beautiful woman because of where I've been. The irony I find is that both my mom and this woman had similar childhoods, abused and neglected and lacking the love that all young girls should have, especially from their fathers. So I have in my life living examples of both ends of the spectrum--one who has let these darknesses conquer her, and one who's given them to God in an honest and inspiring way. We all want to, but she LOVES her enemy. It's amazing.
I guess my point here is in response to what you were saying about getting past however we've been shortchanged and using it for the greater good in a sense. I've found that the strongest words of truth and encouragement come straight from those who've been in the pit. At the same time though, so do the strongest words of detriment. The Bible says in various places words are incredibly powerful and we are to be only encouraging. You never know the state someone's heart is in when you deliver words. I hope to God we'll all do this more each day because I think it could be the most beautiful glimpse of humanity's purpose seen since Eden.
Thanks for sharing :)
he sounds truly inspiring
it shows you how much we take for granted
thank-you so much for sharing this!!
There was one night I was at a family get together, not my favorite thing in the world. Ben is my step mom's cousin and he built a recording studio in his backyard. He, some other people and I spent most of the party in there. It looked like a coffee shop, it was very serene. A 13 year old who lived next door wrote her own music and lyrics on the piano. Me being naive to her talent, when she was about to perform I was expecting something very bland. She may be one of the most talented people I know. Ben recognizing it, let her record a song for free. She inspired me to work at the things I really wanted. I was hurting over a boy and that was the first time I was able to get my mind off of him. She also taught me there is so much more to life than romance, and that I should live my life for that one thing I am passionate about. Mine is music and literary arts.
This may seem like a relatively insignificant event to you or anybody else, but to this day I still think of that little boy when I am in the grocery store and smile.
This writing was a nice reminder of what really is important and how I shouldn't let daily annoyances get me so upset. It is important to remember what I have and understand how lucky I am. I really am one lucky girl, too lucky probably, I'm spoiled and always want things to go (Just another flaw.)
I feel like when I read this thing of yours, sometimes something will strike a chord and I'll think,"Hey...Tristan, stop being a baby." It's nice. I'm not going to say it's changing my life, but it does change the way I think about things sometimes. So yeah...I'm glad you write about things like this.
"Do not be too moral. You might cheat yourself out of much life. Aim high above morality. Be not simply good; be good for something."
-Thoreau
For someone with a "disability", he sounds more able than a lot of people I know.
Who needs limbs when you have motivation and an amazing attitude towards life on your side?
"Last night I drempt someone loved me
No hope, no harm
Just another false alarm."
i didn't think i'd walk away pondering as much as i did, but part of it was talking to renee. she's about my age so we were just kinda chatting and i was talking to her about the youth group and stuff, she asked me what i did, i said student and all the basic answers that i guess define me somehow, and asked her the same. she mentioned her dog, her work, and that she just tries to deal with "this" everyday.
it hit me then that i was conversing with someone with the bravery to fight THE battle for her heart every time she gets out of bed. and yet not only was she out of bed, she drove to jax from orlando almost spontaneously for the show to be a voice speaking against darkness. that was months ago and i still think about it a lot.
if you guys havent yet i really encourage you to check twloha out at myspace.com/towriteloveonherarms
:)
isn't that what we all should hope to be?
"When we become aware that we do not have to escape our pains, but that we can mobilize them into a common search for life, those very pains are transformed from expressions of despair into signs of hope.”
I had another young friend who taught me a lesson through her death. She taught me about keeping in touch and staying real. I wrote this and it's dedicated to her:
hidden moments
wasted days
words passed over; never said
calmly chatting
day by day
til the words repeat...
forever they go on
lingering, tragically held in time
emotions unspoken
heartfelt and true
fear settles in and the words get caught in the mind
cautiously, carefully
hold the words close
never to hurt, never to feel
mute in all but the sound
I haven't ever done this before - posted on a blog. Saw it on the new Anberlin (awesome!) album. Hope I'm doing it right.
Shayne
Victory Within
no doubt you two were a blessing to one another. i love stories like this because they remind me of how small the world really is, and how life should be just that way, where none of us are strangers at all and we have so much love to give and lessons to teach and burdens to share.
thanks.
"aussie aussie aussie oi oi oi"
nick is a real inspiration hey (assuming that it really is the person you're talking about)
but thanks for sharing how his life impacted yours.
:)
In essence, by deeming yourself able to certain things, you set your limits and potentially hamper your own ability to grow and expand into someone much greater and more experienced.
Again, brilliant job here, highlighting something some people have difficulty discovering.
a couple of years back he spoke at my school. I go to an all girls high school, so you can imagine the amount of whinging that goes on there.
But after he shared his life with us we were all inspired. over 1000 girls and for the rest of the day no one complained about anything.
larissa x
Danielle
but i dream of things and ask 'why not?'
Thats amazing. I've definitely heard of this guy and you're the lead singer of my favourite band so this is awesome! haha